Euphonic Brew

In some ways, it’s easier to break up with someone when they’ve been unfaithful or you realize you can’t stand each other. Breaking up with someone when you both love each other sucks, plain and simple. I still don’t know if he’s the one, and it kills me that maybe he is, and I’m letting him, and the potential for us as a couple, go. Yet, finally talking about it after skirting around the topic endlessly felt good. I’ve felt half in and half out of the relationship, part of me yearning for the freedom to flirt (and maybe more) with other people, part of me wishing we could find somewhere to shack up and be that dorky, boring domesticated couple who cooks together and cuddles in front of “Ugly Betty.

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Breakup Sex | The Frisky

I want to say, overall I really liked this piece. Long distance and breaking up both stink, and I think it’s hard to do either in a way that is as respectful and mature as Bussel (at least claims) she conducted and ended hers.

All the same, I think stressing over whether or not he might have been the one is a waste of energy. They both had visions for what their lives looked like, and not only did those visions look very different, but they did not include the other person (or at least, not the other person in a state where they would be happy and fulfilled.) While I wouldn’t argue that this is the most important thing about a relationship, I think that it’s one of the many tests that, if your relationship can’t pass it, your relationship won’t last very long.

Move on. Appreciate the relationship you had for what it was — not for what you had hoped it might become — and try to find someone whose vision of the future looks a little more like yours.

(via robot-heart)